The need for support

My last blog post was the 22nd August so I fear I am overdue a post. But to be honest, life has changed very little since that last post; adorable wife has been told her operation may not be until October at the earliest and therefore we are still waiting. Her overall health is much the same, although mentally I suspect she is somewhat better than a few weeks ago because some good friends have sent surprise gifts and shown great support. Also the anti-depressant drugs she was prescribed appear to be having the desired effect.

I have to say, at first I was not convinced drugs were a good idea, but I am aware that a healthy mental state is not something one always has control over, especially when faced with a situation one has no power to influence. Being stuck at home when you really want to go out and do something is definitely a soul draining circumstance. But when adorable wife first started to take these drugs, she was quite zoned out and not herself at all. She'd stare at you with wide eyes, but not really acknowledge you. She'd be speaking, but as if in a trance, slowly, and a little breathless. To be honest it scared me at first.

We both knew it could take a week or two for these effects to wear off, but that still didn't allay the concerns because it just downright disturbing seeing someone you love act so out of character. Fortunately the effects did eventually dissipate and now adorable wife is a little clearer, a little perkier and certainly the persistent waiting does not seem to be dragging her down.

More than the drugs though I do suspect the true reason for her more positive outlook is the phenomenal support offered by the group she calls her 'endo sisters'. Some of them read this blog, you know who you are, and I know they have been a support above and beyond anything adorable wife had experience before. It's not just the gifts, surprising and wonderful as they are, it's also the back-up, the understanding, the love and the care that is offered.


Having someone who you know understands not only what you are going through, but also how it affects you and lastly who understand you as a person, healthy or otherwise, is utterly priceless.


So this blog post is really just a great big THANK YOU to all adorable wife's endo sisters, who have brought her love, joy, laughter and tears at the right time and in the right way.


The next post will actually be from a very special guest writer. Namely adorable wife herself, who having had me write about her all these months, has herself put her story and feelings into words. She asked if she could hi-jack my blog to post what she had written and of course I am more than happy for her to do this.

As for me, I shall be focusing on my novel is September. Although I finished it a while back, I purposely gave myself some space from it, before returning to run through it one last time, taking into consideration thoughts and comments of those who've read it. Once I have done one last read-through and revision I will complete the synopsis I've already started and start trying to get my novel published. I have decided not to self-publish; that was never a route I was personally keen on, though I know it is very common these days. Therefore I may be in for a long hard slog to get my novel to the bookshelves. But I am confident and remain happy that I have written something that I think others will enjoy. 

As for my blog. Once adorable wife has put up her post, if nothing exciting happens I am quite in the mood to create some fiction! I have a seed of an idea for a short story so I may just use the blog to play around with the concept. If I do it will be the raw unedited words that I write directly from mind to blog, so it will be something of an experiment. 

For now, farewell and adieu!